How to Thrive in the Relationship Era

 

 

We are, each of us, experiencing a revolution of time and communication. Only, we don’t know it yet.

The reason we don’t know that there is a revolution occurring, is because we’re smack dab in the middle of it — and so true objectivity and perspective is difficult.

Give it time. Eventually, we’ll make sense of this cultural shift, and see it for what it is. One of the results of this recent digital revolution, is that we’ll be entering the era of the relationship. Just as the hand-written personal note has renewed prestige in a world of nonstop text-messages and autocorrect, so, too, relationships will have a new cachet in our newly created world of digital distraction.

by Dane Findley

Why Relationships Will Become More Important than Ever

An individual’s true success will hinge on his or her ability and willingness to channel physical energy and quality time toward healthy relationships.

“…adapters are ocean surfers who would rather ride the waves of change
than stand on the beach cursing at the tide”

You’ve heard the expression “early adopters?” Those are the people who buy the new gadget as soon as it comes out, because they’re enthusiastic and because they like to be first. Here’s another expression — slightly different — that you’ll be hearing more of: early adapters.

Adapters are people who are willing to modify their daily habits to serve a new purpose. They are ocean surfers who would rather ride the waves of change than stand on the beach cursing at the tide. It’s the early adapters who will fare most well in the relationship era — including in their careers — because they are asking themselves:

“…what can I do today, so that 5 years from now
I am relevant, prosperous, and enjoying my work?”

Adapters have long since accepted that the modern world is shifting from analog to digital and they’re starting to sense how this is modifying relationships and attention spans; so they’re consciously thinking ahead. After all, in biology, adaptation describes the change by which an organism or species becomes better suited to its environment. We are entering the era of the relationship. Whether relationships are deepened and made healthier by technology, depends on us.

The now-waning analog era used to be a broadcaster’s dream. Behemoth, publicly traded mega corporations controlled their message, and spoon-fed it to you when, where and how they wanted. In the world of media, you had two choices. Consume it, or starve.

You were “spun.”

You were talked at, not with. So, of course the digital revolution would dramatically change the landscape. How could it not?

Slam-cut to today:  the average young man has watched 10,000 hours (at least) of video games by the time he turns 21. On his digital devices — his game console, his smartphone, his laptop, his touch-screen tablet — he’s in charge. He interacts with his device.

“adaptation describes the change
by which an organism or species becomes better suited to its environment”

If you want this guy to sit still for two hours solid while you talk at him, you have to spend over $100,000,000 on a summer blockbuster, and even then you’d better make it in 3-D so that it at least has a wisp of interactivity to the experience. I’m not kidding here. This is a paradigm shift in our society. It’s HUGE. This 40-second video gives you a glimpse:

 
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28 Best Friends:
A Unique Social Experiment ~ Companion e-Guide, $4.95
 

This e-Guide help make the healthy relationships in your life more reciprocal and abundant. It has been proven that healthy relationships are the key to improved health and prosperity.

“…ultimately, it all comes down to your relationships.
Healthy relationships are what are most responsible
for bringing joy and prosperity into your life.
I use the 28 Best Friends guide as my ‘recipe’
for cultivating the relationships in my life that matter most!
I feel so energized about bringing more of myself
to the time I spend with my close friends and family.
As a read through the guide, I started wondering,
“Would I be in my friends’ 9-givers list?”
I hope I add something meaningful to their lives,
so hopefully the answer is yes!”

                  ~ Jared Knickmeyer, Estate Homes Sales Specialist
 

28 Best Friends will help you to craft a relationship list and a relationship action plan. With those two things — plus a positive attitude — you’ll be well on your way to improving your relationships, and therefore you’ll also be improving your health and prosperity, too.

28 Best Friends is an important part of a puzzle that any individual needs to put together for a successful life. Regardless of the length of your life, these steps will make your time on earth pleasurable for yourself and others around you.

This booklet is very hands-on, specific and logical. After the first reading, you might feel that the content is obvious and common sense. And it is! Things become obvious and common sense once someone puts them in the right order and presents them pedagogically.

The list of “questions to ask” provides solid grounding and opens your mind to reflect. I read that part several times to see if it fits my situation and life. After a while I realized that the questions got me thinking in the right direction. This is a great effect of this booklet. It helps you to reflect over your tribe. What more can be done? How can I expand? How can I contribute even more and better?

Do the exercises, even if your first reaction is not to. The effect after doing that is mind-blowing. Regardless of your tribe being super small or metropolitan. You need to see it on paper.

A pleasurable read! There were so many gems for me to collect. Dane writes accessible yet simplified, and has a great sense and feeling for the topic. These skills come from life experience as well as having produced a lot of material in the subject. The content, length, composition and design is just perfect!

                                                  ~ Shahram Khorsand, Sales Manager / CareFusion Sweden
 

If living a happy and healthy life is important to you — especially as you age — then you must pay attention to the relationships in your life.

Designed to help you do exactly that, 28 Best Friends: Your Own Social Experiment! is a practical companion guide to The Numinous Journey eBook and included within the new Longevity Lifestyle Kit:

 

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Each items serve a specific purpose, and combined they become super powerful. Enjoy the value and savings of getting all 5 items together!

The kit includes a e-Book, an e-Guide, an e-Booklet, an e-List, and an e-Workbook. The anchor of the kit is The Numinous Journey, an eBook that utilizes principles of Success Psychology and is strategically crafted to facilitate an inner process, that will help make your exciting new lifestyle habits “stick!”

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• ➋ A Unique Social Experiment: 28 Best Friends
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While reading 28 Best Friends I got an a-Ha! moment — realizing that sometimes we experience unhealthy or unproductive relationships that affect our well-being. It is imperative to connect with the ones that matter and Dane profiles how to get it done beautifully and strategically in his book. Hands down, the book has the most effective tools in connecting with the ones that matter and eliminate the “junk” that affects us, preventing us from growing and living our best lives! For good friends and good times make Dane’s book your weekend read and improve your life!

                                            ~ Doina Oncel, Solutions Specialist for Non-Profits
 

How to Get Ahead in Life

Digital technology is changing everything, including relationships. Digital is a revolution, and after each revolution, usually follows a new era. For us, in this time, it will be the Relationship Era. Technology is designed, ultimately, to free up our time so that we can return it to what matters most: relationships.

The trick to getting ahead in life, is to keep improving how you tend to your relationships — to deepen them; to keep making them healthier and more meaningful.

From day one at instantDane.tv, we envisioned ourselves as becoming a team of dynamic, creative professionals who aligned with the cultural shift, instead of resisting it — because by aligning with it they can better serve our site’s users with longevity lifestyle information that makes a positive difference in their lives.

That is the reason that we blog. We blog, because blogs are immediate and unpretentious. They tell it like it is. And they invite comments.

There’s no team of publicists around a blog. There’s no Compliance Department. A blog reinterprets the whole concept of the dehumanizing bureaucracy.

A blog says: I don’t want to micro-manage my message. I don’t want a fake mission statement that nobody even believes or remembers.

A blog says: Let’s talk. Here’s what’s on my mind lately. What’s on yours?

A blog provides value and makes itself available to you.

Blogs are generous. They engage, without interrupting.

For the creative professional, blogging is nothing less than a blessing. That’s right. I said blessing.

The reason it’s a blessing is because the very act of blogging, hones your gifts and sharpens your expertise.

Blogging helps you master your craft and your service, helps you to get to know your audience better, helps you to focus on the kind of clients with whom you best “fit.” Blogging makes you a better person.

Blogging, ultimately, is all about fostering healthy relationships. To get ahead in life during this new era, you must tend to your relationships — cultivate new ones and deepen existing ones. The more people with whom you are in healthy relationship, the more joy and prosperity will channel into your life.

In fact, this very website that you’re at right now was crafted specifically to help foster relationships — to provide the support and accountability you need to make improvements in how you manage your time and energy so that you can have a better relationship with yourself, and with others.

Of course, all of these benefits of blogging are not readily apparent. It takes bloggers a while to get into the swing of things and to make that internal shift when suddenly they start understanding it on a whole new level (not just intellectually, but bone-deep).

I invite your observations in the comments section below. I’m one of those guys that has an opinion about everything! So if you’re in the mood to share with me what’s on your mind, I’m eager to hear it!